Causes of dating violence

23-Jul-2019 21:11

Muslim men can take up to four wives in Indonesia, the world's most populous Muslim country, if permission is granted by a court and the first wife gives her consent.

Court officials could not provide figures of how many people in Indonesia are polygamous, but activists say cases of men giving false information to gain permission and manipulation of women are common.

"It has to be taken very seriously."Spinks-Franklin say she has seen violence even among relationships between 10- and 11-year-olds."If a parent is concerned that a child is in an unhealthy relationship, they need to address it, but do it in a way that doesn't make the child shut down," she says.

"They need to feel safe telling a parent."Teens often hide the abuse from their parents, Spinks-Franklin says.

​Iyus Yusuf Fasyiya, an Indonesian factory worker who has two wives, said he used the app to share tips with other users on how to maintain a polygamous marriage.

“Many members are looking for wives - they ask about how to start, how to maintain polygamous marriages, and also government regulations,” he said from his home village in Bogor, about 90-minute drive from the capital Jakarta.

“For us what is important is whether the women and children are protected in polygamous marriages,” the ministry's spokesman Hasan, who uses one name, told the Thomson Reuters Foundation.

Boys who have faced dating violence are nearly four times as likely to have been bullied online; girls are more than twice as likely.

Boys and girls who have been victims of dating violence are more likely to get into fights, carry a weapon, use alcohol, use marijuana or cocaine and have sex with multiple partners the study says.

The majority of the app users were men, but there were also about 4,000 women who have registered, the app developer said.

Lawyer Rachmat Dwi Putranto, who deals with marriage matters, said polygamy is “not that easily achieved” as Indonesian courts will only give permission if the first wife is disabled, ill or cannot bear children.

“For us what is important is whether the women and children are protected in polygamous marriages,” the ministry's spokesman Hasan, who uses one name, told the Thomson Reuters Foundation.

Boys who have faced dating violence are nearly four times as likely to have been bullied online; girls are more than twice as likely.

Boys and girls who have been victims of dating violence are more likely to get into fights, carry a weapon, use alcohol, use marijuana or cocaine and have sex with multiple partners the study says.

The majority of the app users were men, but there were also about 4,000 women who have registered, the app developer said.

Lawyer Rachmat Dwi Putranto, who deals with marriage matters, said polygamy is “not that easily achieved” as Indonesian courts will only give permission if the first wife is disabled, ill or cannot bear children.

User Fasyiya said he will continue to refer to the app to learn how to juggle his two families.