The rules of dating for women

14-Aug-2019 14:44

This is true, but handling this situation isn't as simple as you might think...

The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.

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His masculine instincts will kick in, and in some cases you can end up with a man that acts towards you the same way that a confident man would have acted from the outset.

As I said, he will probably start to do this on his own anyway, so rather than forcing it, just be cognizant of the transition.

Comments like "Oh, I thought you were going drive/get the tickets/plan the trip/[insert other traditionally masculine roles here]" can help in priming his confidence if it seems to be lagging and it bothers you.

Aside from their innate male tendency to overlook anything that isn't spelled out in black and white, shy men will by default doubt any sign of your affection.

The reason for this is that shy men are more concerned with avoiding the social catastrophe of asking you out and failing than they are of getting you.

His masculine instincts will kick in, and in some cases you can end up with a man that acts towards you the same way that a confident man would have acted from the outset.

As I said, he will probably start to do this on his own anyway, so rather than forcing it, just be cognizant of the transition.

Comments like "Oh, I thought you were going drive/get the tickets/plan the trip/[insert other traditionally masculine roles here]" can help in priming his confidence if it seems to be lagging and it bothers you.

Aside from their innate male tendency to overlook anything that isn't spelled out in black and white, shy men will by default doubt any sign of your affection.

The reason for this is that shy men are more concerned with avoiding the social catastrophe of asking you out and failing than they are of getting you.

A post I made about why women shouldn't take the initiative in relationships evoked some questions about how to deal with shy men - after all, shy men don't chase women, and are unlikely to initiate anything.